This first week of Autumn has treated me well. I’m over my illness, and my spirits are back up. Yesterday I had an absolutely killer workout, and I felt awesome through the whole damn thing (first time that’s happened in awhile!). I’M BACK, WORLD! Back, and ready to crush it.
I made an exciting decision to mix up my exercise in a couple of different ways that I want to tell you about. One way is to start thinking about participating in 100 days of yoga challenge (I’m talking like five minutes of yoga, not 100 days of hour long yoga classes!). The other way is signing up for my very own custom made fitness program from Christy Morgan/The Blissful Chef.
I am in contemplative mode about the yoga thing (I like to think for a long time before diving into things, even if they are generally inconsequential) but I paypal’d my first payment to Christy yesterday, so that’s on lock! (And yeah, I thought about that move for roughly four months before I actually did it. What can I say? I am who I am.) Although I am clearly very dedicated to my fitness, I have felt a little aimless lately, and I am REALLY excited to work with a personal coach to give me feedback/mold me even further to be the vicious ladybeast I aspire to be. Even a health coach needs a health coach sometimes and Christy is running an absolutely incredible deal (one month FREE!). If you are at all interested in someone making a personalized fitness plan for you, there’s pretty much no reason not to choose Christy. (Also, I think she has a space or two left. What are you waiting for?)
What else? Are you participating in the mass exodus from Facebook over to Ello? If so, I’m on there as @thelacydavis. Find me so we can….I don’t really know what. I’m sure Ello will have some stuff to do in the future, but for now I am happy to just look at it’s relatively pretty interface.
On that note! I have been reading a lot of things this week that make me happy, and as usual I want to share them with you.
I do not know Thomas McBee, but I run across his work on a regular basis, and I always love it. In this article, he writes to the audience of Esquire magazine about his transition from female male, what he learned and what he has discovered about masculine vulnerability. I love the way he talks openly to the reader, and how he talks about gender in such a tender way.
Here’s an excerpt:
“I keep asking, “What makes a man?” I think it’s about integrity. I was thirty when I transitioned; I had a whole life before that. So how can I, in this life, in this body, have a sense of consistency and integrity, with self-respect for my past? How can everything feel like it aligns all together? The longer I’m in the world, the longer I think I was born in the right body, it just was a transgender body. I wouldn’t perceive myself in ever having been wrong in who I was.
When you are in a position of privilege, you see yourself as an individual, whereas other people see you as part of a system. It’s your responsibility as a guy to realize you don’t live in a fair world, and it’s not an unfair request for you to be more cognizant of that, to be an ally to the women around you and not rely on women to make an effort to fit in your world. For example, if you’re on an empty street with a woman, you should probably give her more space.”
This is a small snippet that was sent to me, based around an interview of 8th grader Vionna Peng about her body image. In the interview Vionna talks about her accomplishments in speech in debate, how she survives through middle school by building up a community of her peers, and how dieting plays a role in the social caste system of MIDDLE SCHOOL.
She says: “When you can’t control something you’re like, ‘Oh well, I can control the calories, I can control how much weight I lose.’ And I felt like, maybe if I just lost 3 more pounds by next week, I can sit with the cool kids at lunch. So it was just very never-ending pressure ”
Does that make you want to cry? Me too. She says this SUPER casually, like it is like the most normal thing in the world, and i guess the thing is- it kind of IS the most normal thing in the world for teen girls to feel like they need to change their body to be “okay”.
Luckily, Vionna goes on to immerse herself more in speech and debate, and it seems her focus switches from counting calories to using her experience to talk about building self-esteem. I LOVE a self-directed teenager, and I think her talk is a potent reminder that diet culture is everywhere. If there’s one thing I learned from teaching high school, its that teens are always listening. Let us all be awesome examples for the Vionna Peng’s of the world.
Writing a novel. It’s like, this thing that I am destined to do, but have not (fully) done. I wrote a first draft of a 500 page novel, then couldn’t stand to look at it last year. This year I had a book proposal that seemed like it was going! to! get! published! and then…….it didn’t. I know I will write a novel one of these days, and this article keeps my eye on the prize. (I think I can, I think I can…..)
Hey, so maybe this makes me old as hell, but in myyyyy day, MTV had MUSIC. MTV 12 is basically non affiliated with actual MTV in every way, but hey! They have music videos! Made by bands I care about! And Dawn and Misty are hilarious! I love MTV 12 and its throwback to the MTV format of my youth. I would say this 45 minutes is pretty much the best 45 minutes ever.
I love this article. It was written by a self-identified poor woman named Linda Turado who works her ass off, is a single mother, and either barely makes ends meet (at the time of the article anyway) or doesn’t make it at all. It lays out in perfectly plain detail all the ways in which people without money are basically slated to be unhealthy. (Is there a healthy, balanced meal on earth that competes with the price of 12 microwaved burritos for 2$? I really don’t think so.) My health is such an incredible privilege, in a multitude of emotional and physical ways, and that is a systemic FLAW. Just as all people should have access to a healthy body image and positive self-esteem, all people should have access to fresh and healthy food. How can I ask people to put a significant amount of energy into healthy habits when it isn’t possible or functional for them to implement them? Something I have no answer for, but I am definitely thinking about.
Have a wonderful weekend! Looking forward to talking to you Monday <3
Good afternoon, friends!
I have had a really nice week.
I am house sitting for my good friend and fellow health coach, Lindsay, and it has been glorious to have an entire house to myself to laze around in. I’ve had a constantly spotlessly clean kitchen, super quiet and long mornings, sleep-ins due to Lindsay’s thick curtains (I keep my windows pretty sheer because usually I like to wake up early but this week I’ve needed extra sleep so bad it was ridiculous), and a bunch of time and space to just think. I have been super busy since Super Strength Health went full time and full swing, and I love it, but time to pause is great too. Basically, I’m feeling good.
I’ve been thinking a lot about dietary choices and physical changes this week, because it seems to be coming up all around. Many of my clients have weight loss or weight gain goals. Some of my friends are making dietary changes, I’ve got the fall itch to do a new kind of sport or training plan.
I have a full length mirror in this house sit, and I was super shocked to see what the entirety of my body looks like when I caught sight of it, in a very positive way. It is straight up weird to look in the mirror for the first time in awhile and feel awesome, especially because I have had so, so much time mired in self hate. I have always believed in the process of exercising regularly and eating vegan, but I believe my physical changes are due to smarter exercise, lifting heavy, more rest days, lots and lots of sleep, and lowering my stress. In a nut shell, feeling good is making me look good. Holy shit is that easier said than done.
Here are the links!
I sincerely question if low carbohydrate diets are healthy for most people, and I am totally curious about the long term effects of such a regimented way of eating. (People probably say this about veganism, too, and I totally just eye roll. Are low carb-ers eye rolling at me? It’s okay if so).
I’ve tried a vegan/vegetarian version of a low carb diet, and good lord did I hate it. Many people I know use a low carb model and struggle, while others use a low carb model and thrive. I am totally cool with whatever works for you, but please read this article and consider what it says. Also, give me your feedback! I love hearing about people’s food choices.
I grew up privileged in a lot of ways (I’m white! I’m cis-gendered! I’m straight passing, even if not straight) but one thing I have struggled tremendously with is money. As I sit here typing to you, I am 150,000 dollars in student loan debt. I have a Master’s Degree. I am the first person in my family to go to college. I have made the choice between paying bills on time and buying groceries.
This short sound clip from NPR discusses the taxing nature of what scarcity does to our brains. Basically it says that living in poverty taxes the crap out of people, to the point where they feel like they are drowning. When I listened to it, I thought “DUH!”, but it occurs to me that the research and science behind this phenomenon are important to check out.
“If you’re reading this, and things are tough, we want you to know some facts right off the bat: that your body is YOURS, that consent is not a gray area, that it doesn’t matter what you were wearing, that fitting in isn’t as important as it seems (though caving to peer pressure isn’t the end of the world either), that you have the right to set and defend your own boundaries, that you have the right to have fun, that some things get better and other things, honestly, kind of don’t.”
This is a Tumblr platform that serves as a space for women who have been through terrible things to share their stories and to let other people who have gone through similar things know that it is not their fault. Jesus Christ, the entire site makes me sob, in a deep and real and super important way.
Sometimes hearing “I believe you, it’s not your fault” is the best thing possible.
So often, people come to me wanting weight loss, eating a very low amount of calories, exercising constantly, and wondering why the scale doesn’t budge.
The first thing I ask is “Why do you think you need to lose weight?” The second things I ask are “Are you taking enough rest days? How’s your sleep? What’s your stress level like?”
Weight is a funny thing. It changes when our lives aren’t great. It has something to do with food, but not nearly as much as you’d imagine. If you don’t eat enough, weight loss is going to become impossible reeeeeally quick. (Also, y’all know I am not like rah! rah! rah! Go weight loss!, right? The reality is, my services sometimes *do* help people lose weight, but I’m definitely not weight loss advocate of the century. It makes me nervous to mention weight loss in tandem with Super Strength Health because dudes, what I really do is help you feel more rad. That could result in weight loss, or weight gain, or weight maintenance. Get it? Good.)
Gena Hamshaw, you’ve done it again. For those triggered by talk of other people’s diets and exercise regimens, this is a perfect article for realigning your focus.
What other folks do has nothing to do with you. Keeping your eye on the holistic health of your body, mind, and heart is what’s most important.
Also, I love the shit out of every single one of you.
Have a good week!