Saturday Links #12
And here we are. 12 weeks of amazing links, and I swear it has flown by. How are you dear readers? I have realized I use these Saturday Link lists to talk about my own life, and as my readership grows I have become curious about yours. TELL ME ABOUT YOU. Come on. Do it.
So. It’s Gemini season, which means like all of my BFF’s have birthdays and the sun is out. My dudefriend and I have escaped to Monterey (my home town, in case you didn’t know!) and we slept in until nine-freaking-thirty, sat in a coffee shop for mostly leisure purposes for four hours, booked a cheap hotel room with a fireplace, and kicked it by the ocean. NOT BAD. Also, I got my business cards in the mail (hand set type and letterpressed by Mello Press), which I am ridiculously excited about. I love my job. I love my creative, talented, business supporting friends, and I love my life . Thanks for being a part of that.
Onto the links!
Somewhere along the road, I learned that it was not cool to brag, no matter the circumstance. This article puts into words a feeling that I’ve had for quite some time- that bragging can be helpful! These days, I am all about healthy bragging. Not for just myself (Although I do happen to do it) but also for my friends. Nothing is more inspiring than hearing about other people’s accomplishments and sharing in their joy. Watching people succeed makes me want to bust my ass to live my dreams!
I am a vegan who religiously reads PaleOMG, because I think Juli is hilarious and fun. I have never made one of her recipes, and likely never will due to the whole no-animal-products thing, but I’m certainly not going to let that stop me from enjoying the shit out of her writing. JULI, IF YOU READ THIS (-unlikely-), I am a total fan girl. You make me happy.
This article is uncharacteristically serious, but no less enjoyable. I related SO MUCH, because (entirely unshocking confession time) I have, in the past, felt caged by my identity as a healthy and active person. At some point I realized that I absolutely hated feeling shackled in this way, and I loosened up. What happened when I added in a treat now and again and took rest days when my body ached? My body composition changed in an agreeable way. I got a shadow of an ab, I fit into clothes that had stopped fitting. And my brain? My brain felt fucking awesome. Because I was a whole person, living a whole life.
I think it is wonderful to constantly assess how fit your brain is, as well as your body.
Well friends, I am here to tell you here and now, that my thighs are prett-y big. I can squat many pounds, I can bike up huge mountains. Although I am pretty sure you don’t need big thighs to do either of those, mine have definitely grown as my fitness improves. I crush heavy leg days and I am NOT BUMMED about it. Big thighs help.
All of this is to say, my thighs like to hang out with one another. Like, get REAL REAL cozy and snuggled to the point of raw searing pain. I have tried that whole Body Glide, deoderant stick looking thing….didn’t work. I have tried vaseline and coconut oil….didn’t work. These days I use Chamois Butt’r and it works like a serious charm (!!!). This article discusses and rates many other options for us big thighed babes, and I’m all about it. Mostly, because I was SO ASHAMED when I realized it was starting to be annoying to wear shorts on hot days because I didn’t know chub rub was, like, a thing. The more people talk about this stuff, the more normalized it is, and the less other people have to feel that feeling. Into it.
This is a great primer on telling body shame to go kick rocks. It is lengthy, offers a considerable amount of tools/tactics, and is super positive and encouraging. Even as a body image warrior (which is apparently what I consider myself these days- I think that’s one of those healthy brags I mentioned?) I have to sometimes return to the Body Love 101 stuff. We live in a world that has taught us over and over and over again to dislike our appearance. That means we have to practice self-compassion and self-esteem just as often as that negative stuff has bombarded us.
This is a song written for Jenna’s friends with depression and I have listened to it over and over and over again since I discovered it. Lyrics are as follows:
Please never hesitate to ask me for anything. I will always try my best to be a good friend for you in a time of need. Please, always feel free to reach out to me anytime. I know I’m not always able to help immediately and I might not know exactly what to do when you’re having negative feelings but I promise to always be there when I can. Whatever ways I can help I will do because I love all of you. So please, again, always feel free to reach out to me anytime.
so simple. so sincere. and now……I shed a tear. I have been on both sides of that kind of friendship.
After listening to Jenna’s song, please check out her other band +hirs+, which is the fast and thrashy version of this poppy goodness.
Have an awesome weekend!