It is my spring break, y’all and it feels SO GOOD.
I spent the first day of it stair running, dashing to the farmers market (it started to rain midway and I didn’t even care because yo, I DON’T HAVE TO WORK FOR TWO WEEKS.), picking produce, cooking, and hanging out in sweat pants. No shame, my dudes. To lounge felt divine.
I would like to get in the habit of posting weekly lists of lovely things I find around the web made by women and queers only, because we are wonderful and deserve more representation. I have it in my mind that Saturday is a day for lounging, so it seems appropriate to keep you entertained while you laze. Here is the first of many entries of things I love around the web.
My friend Carrot Quinn hiked the entire Pacific Crest Trail (that’s 2660 miles from Mexico to Canada) and blogged about it in exquisite detail the entire way. She is not only incredibly brave, but also an excellent writer. In this post she discusses dealing with existential dread after the end of her trip. Although most of us have not hiked the PCT (although we should, WHO’S WITH ME?!) we have all probably dealt with returning to regular life after completing a ridiculous feat (grad school, a marathon, a big move, etc.) Carrot’s awesome use of the english language makes the despair seem beautiful.
You know what’s been bumming me out lately? The demonization of carbohydrates. In my disordered eating I had many food phobias. As I recovered, I was able to separate the ones that were silly (healthy fats, carbohydrates, fruits, etc.) from the ones I find have some value (processed foods, high fructose corn syrup, hydrogenated oils- these things are not for me.) Because I am active in the Crossfit community, I come across a fair amount of carbohydrate demonization and sometimes people that I think are actually really, incredibly healthy choose a low-carb way of eating. It can be confusing! I mean no disrespect but I think, like any of the macronutrients, carbs are necessary, and beyond that- downright wonderful. This red flannel hash is a positively delicious way to get in your healthy carbs and pairs awesomely with greens and tempeh, should you want to balance the whole meal out. Dive in.
If you don’t know about Rookie Magazine, I suggest you get up on it. It is a magazine started by Tavi Gevinson who is not only a style icon and a genuis, she’s also a teenager. I frequently find articles about sex, love, career, creativity, etc. that I find relavant to my daily life, even though I am about double the age of the target audience. This article in particular is about growing up in an abusive household, and how it was important for the author not to lose hope. It inspired me to write a post of my own about similar circumstances awhile back, and brings tears to my eyes every time I read it. Speaking the truth holds so much power.
A diagram to help you next time you are having a shitty brain day by The Militant BakerJes of the Militant Baker is another personal hero of mine. She is a body positivity activist and has consistently inspired me to be a better, more self loving, positive version of myself. In this article she gives you a concrete numbered list of actions to take if you’re having a “shitty brain day”. Who doesn’t have those from now and again? Take her advice, feel awesome, know her, love her, thank her. This woman is great.
Every project that Kathleen Hanna has been a part of (Bikini Kill, Le Tigre, and the Julie Ruin) has been instrumental in the construction of my mental health, my politics, and my sense of feminist community. In this video she pairs with Kathi Wilcox (also from Bikini Kill and the Julie Ruin) to test one another’s knowledge of their 20+ year friendship. I love the window into their personalities and let’s be real, I love the incredible power of the female bond. Revolution, Girl style NOW, always and forever.
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When I was a little kid my favorite activity was to be pushed on the swings by my grandmother. I swung as high as possible, pumping my little legs, and as my grandmother pushed me she would always ask me the same question:
“Are you a bird brain, or a big brain?” she would say.
“BIG BRAIN!” I would shout, because duh. Obviously I was a big brain. It was barely a question worth asking. The truth was apparent.
My grandmother ate chips. Potato chips, greasy ones with onion dip. She ate them and between bites she would bemoan herself.
“Diet starts tomorrow,” she’d say.
“I am turning into a fat pig,” she’d say.
“When I was young I used to think I was so big. I look in the mirror now and I’m huge. Now I’m REALLY fat”.
After chips she ate cabbage soup for a week straight until the smell of her farts made her eyes water.
“I give up,” she’d say between bites of chip. “I give up.”
My grandmother smoked, then didn’t smoke for twenty years, then smoked again. She got lung cancer almost immediately once she re-started and then she had tests.
“THE CANCER HASN’T METASTICIZED!” she said, full of joy when the tests came back.
The chemo and radiation ravaged my grandmother. Her hair fell out, large clumps, and she was hooked up to a breathing machine and bald. She was gasping, she couldn’t breathe. My once soft grandmother became hard, spindly and small. She threw up from the chemicals. She had a stroke and couldn’t use her left side. She fought, she fought, and then she could no longer talk.
My mom tells me that the night my grandmother died she couldn’t move, speak, eat, breathe. She was tiny, frail. Half of her body was slack and limp. My mom pulled her face over my grandmother’s hospital bed and said:
“It’s okay if you go. We will be okay. I promise.”
My grandmother passed just as soon as she got permission.
After my grandmother was dead I found out she had a boob job, before boob jobs were really even a thing. She had been flat chested and self conscious, saw her breasts as an error needing to be fixed. She had liposuction too, and forever thereafter had been worried when fat came back and grew in different awkward places.
I wonder if my grandmother ever thought about how sad it was that she spent her life getting hacked up, dieting.
I wonder if she explicitly emphasized my brain on purpose so that I wouldn’t do what she had done. I wonder why she couldn’t do that for herself.
I wonder if anyone ever told my grandmother she was of value, that her body was wonderful as is. That she deserved to exist without augmentation. Of course she must have noticed that the chemo dwindled her body as she’d wished she could have done with diet. I wonder how she felt about that. I wonder if she saw the irony.
In light of this, I wake up every day and I have to let myself exist honorably.
I honor my brain, as I was taught to do, by learning as much as humanly possible.
I honor my body.
I honor my body by respecting it, by listening to it, by thanking it. I honor my body with good sleep and water and food and physical activity and connections.
I honor my butt and my thighs because that shit is big and strong, and they don’t need to be smaller. They deserve recognition, not from a yelling man on the street but from ME. This butt, these thighs, all this is mine and yeah, hollering man, obviously they look hot. Like I don’t know. Please.
I honor the part of me that has been hurt in the past, confused and unable to eat because I thought my body was not good enough, whatever good means.
I honor my body because I am a role model for teenage girls and teenage girls are pretty much the most important thing in the entire world.
I honor my body because growing up I had no role models to show me how to do this. (How is it possible that I grew up surrounded by strong-as-fuck women who hated their bodies with every fiber of their beings?)
I honor my body because my grandmother never learned to honor hers.
If I can do it, you can do it too.
One of the best parts about having an awesome relationship with my body is that I get to be curious about what works for me to eat and approach cooking like an experiment. For a long time I steered clear of beans, because they tended to really upset my stomach. Despite this, I have made a conscious effort to lower my soy intake recently and have mostly eliminated protein powders from my diet, and (of course) I felt myself craving protein. I have had some success with adding sprouted lentils and mung beans back into my meals, and with this recipe I decided to take the plunge and see if other small beans would work too.
I used canned beans for the recipe, and I chose Eden brand, because they are prepared with a seaweed called Kombu, which tends to make them more digestible. Be sure to rinse your beans thoroughly to make them easier on the gut!
|Mexican-style savory baked oatmeal|| |
- 1 T olive oil
- ½ medium red onion
- 3 cloves garlic
- 1 lime
- 1 cup chopped cilantro
- ½ cup nutritional yeast
- 1.5 T baking powder
- 2 cups gluten free rolled oats
- 2 cups water
- ½ cup salsa
- 2 cups pinto beans
- ½ cup black olives
- salt and pepper to taste
- Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
- Heat olive oil over medium heat in a 9" cast iron skillet.
- Saute the onion and garlic, adding in fresh squeezed lime juice as they start to sizzle.
- Mix cilantro, nutritional yeast, baking powder, and oats in a bowl.
- Slowly fold in water, salsa, pinto beans, salt and pepper, and black olives. Stir until thoroughly mixed.
- Pour mixture into cast iron skillet and give it a stir to incorporate the onions and garlic.
- Bake for 50-60 minutes, until the top is golden brown and looks just a touch crispy around the edges.
- Top with salsa and guacamole and serve with a salad or some grilled veggies for a balanced meal!